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How to Convince Your Partner to Have a Family Photoshoot

Updated: Apr 27


Family photoshoots are a great way to document the growth of your children, celebrate important milestones, and create lifelong memories… but what do you do if your partner doesn’t see it that way?


Lots of individuals don’t love having their pictures taken, and I know that this can present a challenge when it comes to taking family photos. While some partners will still agree to the idea just to make their other half happy, others will drag their feet to the shoot or refuse to go altogether. This is no fun for anyone, nor does it photograph well, but luckily I have a few tricks up my sleeve!


Before I dive into some of the most common reasons that your partner may give for not wanting to take family photos and share my advice for responding to their hesitations, I want to stress the importance of keeping this conversation POSITIVE. No one likes a negative Nancy.


Seriously though, how you broach the subject and speak about it with your spouse will make a HUGE difference in how they react. Rather than guilt-tripping your partner into a shoot and risking a heated discussion, listen to their concerns and explain the value of having family photos. Although it may seem like they're just being difficult, they most likely have their reasons.


So, let's get into it!



SCENARIO #1


Partner: It’s too expensive.


Life is expensive, we get it. If your partner isn’t keen on paying for a family photoshoot, chances are they don't intrinsically understand the value of photography. You should, therefore, communicate the importance of having family photos and give them some gentle reminders about their own splurges, in a very non-confrontational way of course. When they realize that they spend twice as much money on hiking gear, it may help them to put things into perspective.


I would also suggest writing up a financial plan to curb any remaining worries. Show them exactly how it will fit into your budget and identify some areas where you can cut back if needed. By telling them that you're willing to skip your weekend ski trip for the shoot, they'll not only feel better about your finances, but it'll also help to drive the importance of the photoshoot home.


To soften the blow even further, let them know that bundles and other discounts are available, which will make the session(s) even more affordable. The initial deposit also helps to break up the payments! You can find my bundles