Updated: May 10, 2019
On Sunday Jan 27th I was privileged to have my friends the Bizier's over to the studio to do a facebook live gender reveal!
Melissa asked me a while ago if I would be interested in taking photos of the reveal in my Vancouver photography studio while my husband Kyle took the video for facebook. We said yes instantly because we were so excited to share such a special time with them and be there first hand! And Melissa was bringing pizza and beer so how could we say no hahahah ;) I would have done it for a hug xoxo but I did get lots of those too anyway!!
It was SO SO fun!! We did a little mini shoot prior to document the pregnancy and then off we went!
Here is the video!!
I hope I linked this right:
If the whole thing doesn't show go here: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.harper.71/videos/vb.515984371/10156325791619372/?type=2&video_source=user_video_tab
These are the gender reveal photos I ended up getting and OMG so so so cute!! Their first daughter is named Mavie and she is just the funnest and CUTEST little girl...and she is going to make the BEST big sister!!
To give you a bit of history, I have know Ian (the dad!) since he was...I think 10 years old..yup!! His oldest sister and I were very close friends growing up! Then, Ian grew up into the amazing man that he is today and got himself a FAB girlfriend named Melissa. They got engaged and asked little ole me to take their engagement photos and that is when Melissa and I started to get to know each other.
It just went from there, I took their wedding photos, we had some couple dinners, Melissa worked with me on my kids birthday parties I used to host and in a short time my husband Kyle and I called them our good friends. We have had many a dinners since and have shared so many special life events with each other! So grateful to have them in our lives!
Now I need to say...Melissa is an absolutely amazing wife, mother and friend. She is such a hard worker and so talented at what she does. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 7 years now and are having struggles. That is a story for another time though. Melissa and Ian struggled to get pregnant with their second baby and Mel and I have had many chats about it. I'm so blessed to have her knowledge and support through this tough time we are going through.
The reason I bring this up is that I'm just so proud of my friends for who they are as a couple and as parents. I would like to share their story told by Melissa (she made this post on fb a about a month ago).
With it being the last day of the year today, a time of reflection, I wanted to share what I was most grateful for this year but it's going to be a long one, so bare with me:
This picture shows me today, 17 weeks and 1 day pregnant. This milestone means a lot more to our little family than most. This journey started 3 and a half years ago when my amazing husband Ian Bizier and I decided it was time to have another baby. We love our Mavie so much! She has become such a fantastic human who is so caring, loving, compassionate, funny and super silly. It was time to stir the pot and add another.
Well easier said than done. After a year of trying we sought medical advice. Two years ago we started the dreaded fertility testing. The poking, the proding, the doctor visit after doctor visit...only to find out there was nothing wrong with us and whatever our barrier was, that the medical system did not have a test for it yet. We were diagnosed with secondary infertility (aka we don't know why it's not working for you 🤷♀️).
Believe it or not, 1 in 3 couples struggle with some sort of fertility issue now-a-days. Whether it's low sperm count, PCOS, endometriosis, hormone imbalance...the list goes on unfortunately and it's not fucking fair. So, to our surprise, Ian and I made the cut. We were now a statistic. We were now that 1 couple out of 3. Lame. 🙄
We were offered IVF from day one at our first fertility clinic, who by the way I DO NOT RECOMMEND as they are not in the business for the right reasons. IVF is such an invasive fertility treatment, so we opted for another approach. Unfortunately, after the third failed round of the treatment we chose and 3 losses along the way 😓, I had to stop. Not only were the medications wrecking havoc on me, the stress and disappointment each month can really mess with your emotions. Luckily, we had a fairly good support network to bring us back from it all. You may not have realized it, but your words and your time really helped.❤
We waited almost another year before reaching out to another clinic. This time the experience was a thousand times better. Within our first appointment we made real progress in terms of discovering what our barrier was. Turns out I had uterine pulps and after my surgery was done we successfully conceived on our second try of treatment. 🎉🎉
This journey was H-A-R-D. It was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Not only were we parenting our amazing daughter, working full time and trying to live a fairly normal life...our sidelines were filled with pee strips, blood tests, calendars full of appointments, medications taken at specific times, lots of tears, lots of heart ache, unthinkable losses...etc. etc.
If you know a couple struggling to conceive, please take my words of advice: Never say "it will happen when it happens"....ummm duh!!! & "it wasn't ment to be"...or you may be punched in the face. Instead: listen. Say "I'm so sorry". Say things like "I'm here for you". The couple doesnt need reason from you, they need to rant and vent and cry and to get mad. Be all of that for them.
So this year I'm grateful for: 1. My husband. This shit journey has brought us closer and I am thankful for that...for too many others, it would have driven them apart. I love you. 😘
2. Mavie. Your are my favorite person in the whole world. I just could not imagine life without you in it. Thank you for being such a silly girl.
3. The bump. You have no idea how loved you are already. Please be healthy and strong as I'm still petrified this isn't real yet and I wake up most mornings thinking it was just a dream. We can not wait to meet you. Also, prepare yourself to hear about how much work it took to have you 🤦♀️
Cheers to 2019 my friends! A happier chapter in our lives and when I can also drink wine again 🍾🍾
I'm so proud of you Melissa for sharing your story, it has helped ME so much and I hope it will help many others! Love you lady xoxo
Ok I need to go wipe my tears now...
I will be sharing our fertility story one day soon, we are still in the process of having tests done and there isn't too much to tell yet.
It's SO important to have conversations about fertility as you are not alone, none of us are! Let's be open and be there for each other!
Thanks for reading xo
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